My mind has been made up. The blog stays.
Another decision that’s been made: I will not rejoin the Winx fandom.
Much thanks again to my boyfriend for helping with this decision, but this time, he did so unintentionally.
He was a part of The Loud House‘s fandom, but left recently because of problems with fan art. No, he doesn’t make fan art, but it seems there’s an issue with NSFW fan art because some people would rather complain than use safe search or not let minors use the internet unattended. Apparently, suggesting such things instead of expecting to police the entire internet is offensive.
Reminds me of the Elsanna fandom when I think about it, only in reverse.
Anyway, while we were talking about it, I told him I believe fandoms are more like exclusive clubs where the requirement is having the “right” opinion, and he thought that summed it up best. Now, he’s said something I personally think best sums up fandoms as a whole. For context, he posted about how he felt on Tumblr and someone told him he should’ve expected that because no fandom is decent (I 100% agree!). His response was:
“True. I thought some fandoms would be different than others, but all of them suck.”
Boy, can I relate! That’s what I thought about the Winx Club fandom. It was certainly a hard lesson, but it’s correct. There is no such thing as a good fandom. They all suck.
When my boyfriend made his decision to leave The Loud House‘s fandom and told me about it, he unintentionally cemented my decision to not rejoin the Winx fandom. Ironically, I’d been leaning toward rejoining it for a while, but the trouble with Dreamix put me back on the fence. All he did was finally help me climb down on the “Nope” side.
This blog is staying because it’s not necessary to be part of a fandom if you love a show. It might be a bit lonely without a fandom, but loneliness is better than drama and “my opinion is right and yours is wrong” unless you thrive off that kind of thing. I know some people do, but I don’t. I like talking about how I feel about about certain aspects of the show and as I said in another post, whoever takes issue with how I think and feel is free to find another blog.
However, it’s really a shame this is what fandoms have become. I expect this behavior from hatedoms, not fandoms. Yes, I know fandoms are not hive minds and I never expected that. What I did expect is people’s different opinions to be respected, not see fans attacking each other, let alone lying and making false accusations like what happened to me. Maybe I expected too much.
The biggest shame, in my opinion, is that it wasn’t until I became a target that I was able to see this. Which means I was unknowingly fine with and condoned this behavior, and likely participated in it, until it happened to me, and that is not something I’m proud of. But I suppose it’s better late than never, even if it took me leaving, that I see the fandom’s true colors.
Yes, I know the world is not a happy place. I know we don’t all get along. But some things simply should not be a competition. Fandoms are one of them. In a way, it reminds me of the message of Zootopia on a smaller scale: that people who’ve been wronged can be the same as those who’ve wronged them. No one’s above it all, no matter how much they think they are.